Rule 1 & 2

So, I was able to save my first entry by printing out a window that showed me the preview of it.  It just happened to stay open on my computer.  I just have to retype the whole thing.  Which will probably be next time since "time is gold" and I really wanted to put this post up. So don't give up on me! Just knowing that I have this blog, makes me "air blog" a lot (Lol-like playing "air guitar") The challenge for me is and seems that it will always be, finding or taking the time to blog. But I'm sure after a few times I might get addicted or o.c.d. about it ;-p

Now for today's post: I spoke to my mom last night and we got into a conversation about her situation.  She's in the states trying to see a doctor, but she has to go through a long process to do so and is staying with a friend.  Of course by now it seems like she's overstayed her welcome, so some issues are coming up with some family members where she's staying at. What drives me crazy is that if she would have planned a little better she wouldn't be in this situation. If you knew how she brought us up, you would feel the frustration because we were taught to 1.Figure it out & 2. Plan ahead.  Two things my mom seems to struggle with now, or lost along the way.  Which stinks because she really needed to stick to those rules so she wouldn't be going through these hardships now.  So I have come to the conclusion that I mistakenly thought my parents taught me Rule 1 & 2. It turns out it was just another case of "Do as I say not as I do". (Parents, don't do this to your kids! It WILL backfire!) It seems like the only ones that really lived up to Rule 1 & 2 so far have been my grandmother and my uncle.

Even though my mom is going through a tough situation she has always had my grandmother to back her up.  Maybe that's what happened. My grandma has always been weak with her. And through all the bickering and complaining, my mom knows 110% she can count on grandma to bail her out. So even though there are blind and cripple people & in worse conditions out there hustling my mom gets excused.  She really believes that she can't hustle anymore, so she's been excusing herself for years. But don't tell her that because those are fighting words!

 I think that actually believing that you can't do something is like a poison, it cripples your will to move forward or make any type of effort. Basically you give up.  Some people even wait around for some type of hero to save them that most likely, will never come. Take action SNAP OUT OF IT! You CAN do it!

If anyone was empathetic at one time with my mom, it was me. I understand some of her ailments since I have them too.  But I've had to push forward and take it one day at a time whether I like it or not.  Especially because I have things to do, places to go and people that depend on me even if it's just to listen to them. I don't have a mom to back me up and spoil me.  I appreciate the not spoiling, but it would be nice though to have motherly support sometimes, that I won't deny.  This is why I loooove my close friends so much.  They are my extended family and I know I can depend on them when I need a listening ear and even improvised motherly support!

Well everybody, thanks for visiting I will post as soon as I can. But for right now I have to go help the next generation 1. Figure it out and 2. Plan ahead! ...Lol

See you next blog! :-)